Today’s act of kindness wasn’t anything impressive by anybody’s standards. But here is what I did: I took all the leftover food that I cooked yesterday and gave it away to two struggling families. We have no homelessness here, given that is such as a small town, but we do have families who struggle. Families with children, at that.
Usually I would have freeze everything into handy 2-meal containers for both husband and I. Or simply for me to defrost on the days he is away but I am not fussed at all about cooking.
Today I took it all over to the Brezina and Rychelova families. (Both family names have been changed to preserve their identity.) I have not taken any pictures either because I do not deem it worthy to flaunt around people’s wealth while others are struggling in poverty. No, I am not swimming in wealth. I have enough every month to pay my bills and eat and that’s about it. But I do know what it feels like to not have enough. And they have children. And I don’t.
I do not want to get too much into it because I do not think is an appropriate thing to do. Suffice to say that they are going to be ok for the next 2-3 days; and while it might not seem much to the average reader, it certainly makes a difference to those that have to count every penny on a monthly shopping.
I also did something else today. It concerns my sister-in-law. I have never met her. But my brother and her have been dating for over a year now. It was a rocky start, much like Jan and I were. But now that they finally know each other, now that there are no secrets and nothing left to hide, they are at a point were they truly love each other for what they are.
She is not perfect and neither is my brother. But I love my brother, and she makes him happier than I have ever seen him to be. And to me that is something. I haven’t met Vanessa yet; given how we live half a continent away. I’ve talked to her by WhatsApp (both text and voice); and she was the first go-to person when my brother’s phone died and he was “incommunicado” for 3 days until he sorted a new phone.
What she is or she isn’t is not something for me to judge. Neither what she might or might not have done in the past. We all have a past. Some of us have a past that include a lot of regrets. It doesn’t matter. What it matters now is that she makes my brother happy. Happier than I have ever seen him. He is always smiling and he is always thinking about her; most specially when he sends me voice messages and calls me “cariño” (darling), and I know he is thinking of her.
I personally have had too much experience of families disliking me for being me, with no regards to what I did for their darlings, or how I made them feel. So I wanted to tell her that to me, at least, it didn’t matter. All it matter is what she did, what she does for my brother and how happy he is because of her. So I texted her this:
I told her that we don’t know each other. That we might or might not get along and, that at the end of the day, it doesn’t matter. What matters is how happy she makes my brother and that it is all I care. I told her that I will always love her for that (even if we don’t get along).
Soon after this message I gave her a call and told her all of this and plenty more (with way many more words). I made sure that she knows that she is important to my brother and she makes him happy. And because of that, she is important to me. I told her these things and more. I told her that she means the world to me, and she will always have a spot in my heart.
I can understand why to most people these sort of acts means nothing. I get that. I am not changing the world. It is impossible to change the world all at once. I am doing all of this to change “my world”. My everyday life and the lives of those around me. You can’t change the world all at once, but you can be the change that makes everything around you be a little better. Be that change.
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