Today husband came home. Only until Monday, but that is a lot earlier than expected. For several hours we chopped a lot of wood (no pun, really), so we can keep the fireplace going.
I am exhausted. But I made some nice chicken meal for him and run him a hot bath, and put some cream in his eye. He got a minor injury at work. The massage part will come tomorrow because I am also exhausted.
I talked to a couple of friends. One of them I know since I was fourteen years old and I love him dearly, even though sometimes months go by in which we are not in touch. That is totally on me. I am a sucky friend most of the times.
We ended up talking for nearly 3 hours on the phone. He saved a life. I was proud of him. I am not sure if he actually got a medal for it, or if that only happens in the movies. Anyway, my good deed today wasn’t talking for 3 hours. Was counselling him for 3 hours. We talked about his divorce, his ex-wife, his child…
You might not see this as an important act of kindness. But I do. And in fact one of the most important things you can do for other people is just sit and listen, empathize, and be their friend. Counsel them when you can, but put yourself in their shoes before you do.
I am always the go-to person among my friends when they need help dealing with live events. It has always been so ever since we kids. I have been with them all through many things: rapes, suicides, deaths, divorces, cheating…
Who do I turn to when lives get sour? For my entire lifetime I turned to no one until I met my husband. And it’s only in the last few months that I am opening up to a friend. He listens. He cares. He advises me. And that alone has been a life changing event. One that has made me a better person.
Spending time with people is always a good act of kindness. Even if the time spent is only on the phone. Sometimes all people need is to know somebody care for them. Know that they aren’t alone. That their lives matter. So to me today hasn’t been a waste of time in terms of kindness. Even though I had planned something completely different. But, as John Lenonn would say:
“Life is what happens to you while you’re busy making other plans.”
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